Wondering how to keep your New Year's Resolutions?
Are you ready to start the New Year right? Are your resolutions ready? Do you have big plans for losing weight, sculpting the perfect body, traveling more, launching your blog, eating right and finding the love of your life?
Statistic Brain ran the numbers; only 8% of people achieve their New Year’s Resolutions. Why? Oftentimes, people make resolutions because they think they should, not because they really want to change in that way, at that time.
I will admit that this is a great time of the year to reflect on the past and make plans for the future. I find it to be a very introspective and healing time for myself. I also want you to know that ANY time is a good time to reflect and set intentions. You don’t have to wait until the end of the year or the beginning of another.
This is also the time when we need to be vigilant about media messages being directed at us. This is one of the prime seasons for diet culture. It is such an easy time for us to fall for marketing and media schemes to make us believe that we need to change. That we need be smaller, better, smarter. Be mindful that these messages are only trying to get you to feel bad about yourself so that you will spend your money. You do not need to be (skinny, in a relationship, curvy, wealthy, perfect, popular, insert adjective here) to be worthy of a beautiful year ahead. YOU get to decide the life you want to live. YOU get to make the changes that you think will bring you the most joy.
LET’S THROW OUT “RESOLUTIONS” AND LET’S SET OUR INTENTIONS AND GOALS FOR THE UPCOMING YEAR.
HERE ARE A FEW WAYS TO REACH YOUR GOALS (ANY TIME OF THE YEAR):
Keep it simple – By simple, I don’t mean easy. Keep your goal specific. I used to be really guilty of setting these lofty and broad goals. It makes the goal much more attainable if it is specific. Set many smaller goals that add up to your one big goal. Instead of, I want to be healthy in 2018 make it, I want to drink 3 gallons of water a day or I want to go to the gym 3 days per week. Reframe your goals with targeted and specific information and I promise that you will find it to be much more attainable.
Set intentions – There is power in intention. Sound too yogi-hippie-weirdo for you? Read more about the Law of Attraction! Having daily or weekly intentions is another important layer to meeting your goals. You can incorporate a meditation practice in your daily rituals or you can write out your intentions, repeat them while you are brushing your teeth . . . it doesn't need to be glamorous to be effective. One of the intentions that I want to manifest in the coming year is: I intend to respond first, then react. This intention will help me to achieve my larger goal of being a calm and kind partner.
Write them down – Write down your goals on a paper, on a mobile note, on your calendar. I cannot stress the importance of writing out your goals enough. There is something magical that happens when you speak and write your goals. It just becomes more powerful when you can actually see it and it doesn’t just live in your head.
Let others know – Accountability is key. Sometimes, we don’t want to let our friends or family know that we are going after a goal for fear of failure. That’s ok. It doesn’t have to be them. Create an Instagram and find like-minded individuals pursuing similar goals, join a Facebook group or a community group. Goals become more long-term when we don’t go at them alone.
Change in the ways that are meaningful to you – Do not set a goal to change because someone else told you that you should. This is for you. This is about your happiness. Set goals that fuel your fire, not dull your sparkle.
Approach your goals with grace – You don’t have to be perfect. There will be a learning curve. It won’t be easy. You won’t be perfect at it. That’s ok. When we abandon the idea that we have to be perfect at something, we allow space for more long-term change.
Be patient with yourself - Speak to yourself from a place of love. It won’t happen overnight. Stop tearing yourself down when there are bumps in the road or minor detours in your journey. You got this.